Something tells me that something is wrong with me. But I’m sure in my heart it’s not. I know nothing is wrong except for I don’t really know how to fit into the box of expectations set for us. Does that count? Wish I knew the right answer but when everyone keeps pointing it out maybe it is wrong. Everything rules out being out of the box. But what about people who find that box claustrophobic? Does the world really want them to suffocate to death just so to maintain its reputation? If so that I can’t be the one to judge this self-righteous world for I see myself neither inside the box nor outside,hammering nails into it for a cold corpse.
When we say the word express, it brings an ocean of thoughts in our mind. It brings a tornado of emotions.
It brings a mixture of feelings that somewhere we all are familiar with, but are just afraid or say, do not allow ourselves to accept it and hide it in us. We think that will make us look stronger. That is correct. Everyone of us wants to be correct in all the aspects of life and we should be even. At last this is human nature, to feel correct, right,strong…always. No matter what, we are never going to tell anyone about our real emotions and how we are feeling. WHY? Because we know that not everyone can understand us and, there is no need even for everyone to understand us. There is a saying by very famous Indian poet who lived under the reign of The Great Akbar, Khanzada Mirza Khan Abdul Rahim Khan-e-Khana aka Rahim.
“Keep your grief in your mind. People will just make fun of you by listening to them, but nobody shares the grief.”
I know that everyone of us knows that…correcting…”almost everyone”.
But we also know that there must be someone somewhere with whom we can share everything we feel, we know, we care and not for. Simply just everything. And that person is the one. The person with whom you should share everything, tell everything, talk about everything. That person is your partner. Your partner in everything and will always be your partner in everything. What you both have to do is…EXPRESS. Because that is the person who will be affected by your griefs, and will never in his/her life will make fun of them. The person will really care about you…and you too will feel it with time. You will see the change…that how from not letting your feeling’s out, you just keep on blabbering about them without even a second thought in your mind…just when you are around that person.
You will always feel flawless, the perfect soul in this whole universe when you are with that person. When you express and the person facing you just simply understands everything and keeps on appreciating, correcting you and your thoughts. You will start realizing that you are a better person from what you were yesterday. The power of expression is such my friends.
You will become a person that always wants your other being with you, so that there is an endless chit-chat going on throughout the day. There is an endless exchange of thoughts taking place the whole time. You will understand each other in the best possible ways, and will explore the corners of each other which never were till date by anyone. Not even the person himself/herself. The comfort zone just keeps on increasing and there is no stoppage, blockage or anything that can ever harm you in anyway. WHY? Only because you know that you wills always express what you feel and it will simultaneously lead to a solution with ease and no complications.
You will love the way you are living and will always enjoy it. You will attain the peace of mind that every living soul in this universe craves for. You will be at peace.
The ultimate peace of mind.
Bearing with the subjectivity of the topic we can all agree that mostly what silence has to offer, carries a universal lingo. Generally when the hush spreads it shows seriousness or regret. But from my observation I see it as the suppression of words rather than lack of ’em.
What is it that gets suppressed? Emotion? Yes, to an extent but with that goes into oblivion what could have been said, which could have made all the difference but couldn’t. These supressed words cum silence have such an immense power that could all together destroy or save a relation/job/position or any other context you might find relatable. Such is the power my friends, of this unwanted doledrum that it swallowed countless obstacles- being of prime importance in our lives.
But how can one avoid this grave consequence of ‘the silence’ ? The only way out is to Talk. Find the right person, whom you think is worthy of listening to your inner storms, who will calm them down and most importantly who will understand them. This person if asked, can be anyone from your soul mate to your college mate, from your parents to and of the beings you are close to. And do not judge me my friends but a little dog can also do wonders to your raging hysteria. So hold that person and talk your heart out. Explain them in every possible way how something bothers you. How much you want it to vanish. And how it handicaps all your emotions.
This ‘the talk’ will be the new beginning for you. You will feel free and ethereal. This will be the end of those shackles because as long as you hold onto them they will for sure ruin everything that comes across your path. Encompassing them all beneath your skin to that extent that they shall explode once reached beyond your limit, is not at all a situation to sit and wait upon. That silencing ring you create around you will do more harm than any benefit.
So quit all the gloominess and open that heart of yours. Soak the world with your tears once and after that don’t look back. Focus on yourself. Your well-being, because as long as you keep yourselves healthy, you’ll keep your loved ones happy.
And maybe you might end up making the world a better place.😊👍
This site started as a motivational one but after some deliberations with my co-author we decided to widen the scope of our blog, not only to focus on the motivational aspect of life but also to the various thoughts that cross our mind daily.
Changing the name from “Want some motivation? You seem quite intelligent you just came to the right place.” to “pku TALKS” I will be able to share my thoughts and views on a much wider stance.
Thankyou all for being with us and hope that you will continue to be.
One of the most debatable topics of the modern period- love- is also one of the single most misunderstood concept. The Oxford Dictionary defines it as “An intense feeling of deep affection” and also “A strong feeling of affection and sexual attraction for someone”, the earlier one meaning love that is shared between people and their families and the latter referring to conjugal ties.
Love in my understanding is the mutual feeling between two people who would embark on any path to protect them and keep them intact. Love is what is shared. Love reflects like a mirror for your affections towards a particular person. Love is not always associated with love making,physical/bodily touch but most certainly to the pain that is felt when the feeling of separation arises.
Many of us undertake various measures to find that so called ‘love of life’ but fail to understand that in the process we tend to defy nature’s laws. We come across various instances where we tag each person we meet or tend to like as ‘the love of our life’ and in the end wind up discontented along with lots of confusion and frustations. Honestly,these stay alongside your shadows for most of your life until that one person.
That one person when you realise is love is not when everything suddenly seems to be beautiful but when each of your puzzles get completed. The gap is filled. When he/she fills all your gaps left wide open,unable to be filled by you and you perform the same for them.
It’s not about same taste in material things or about harmonizing opinions but to respect each other’s. Just by the grace of science we know that in a magnet like poles repel, it holds the same for the philosophy of love too.
Love is subjective. No two societies or even individuals may have same opinion about it but deep down our hearts, we all ache in the same melancholy. We all need the same. Love.
Love as a motivation is a rare find and people seldom get inspired by it. This inspiration generally takes a negative form accompanying loneliness. But what we all fail to visualise is the abundance of motivation in love. It is the evergreen source that constantly drives you towards your ambition let alone the destructive feelings. But just ponder upon this that if love isn’t successful in making you successful, then why does this bloody practical world still feels the need for it?
Many of us identify ourselves as not being patient enough or have the calm to wait. But the period of waiting is what generally reflects your true nature.
Success being an important milestone in everyone’s life, hustles people into making frisky decisions,luring them as to not to have the patience to wait for the right moment.
Everyone waits for something in their life. Some wait for money, some for success and some for love.
When people discourage you about being patient and not rushing into seizing opportunities,do not let them lead you off your path. Waiting for something good is nowhere lousy but yes putting all your hopes onto waiting for that something without any effort is not at all lucrative.
A simple saying, “God helps those who help themselves.” So go out there help yourselves, try to make things right and wait for the fruit to bore.
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A word exploited by people at times to demean somebody who do not agree with there opinion by calling themselves broad minded and the other narrow minded. But, in actual they themselves have no idea of what being broad minded is. In actual a person is broad minded if he/she is liberal or tolerant in one’s views and reactions and does not get offended easily.
Talking about people who demean somebody on the basis of their thinking or attitude towards life by calling them “narrow minded” are in reality narrow minded themselves.
The modern generation defines there “fun frolic activities” like clubbing, drinking, eve teasing, smoking, etc; as being broad minded. But, it is a sign of meager thinking. A virtuous man nowadays is considered narrow minded.
One quality of a narrow minded person is being judge-mental on wrong criteria like race, caste, religion, color, social status etc; In real everybody judges. Judging on what criteria, puts you in the category of broad or narrow minded. It would be wrong to say that we don’t judge. Judging is the filter that brings us close to some, while far from many.
Some people are out spoken enough to mock themselves, while some treasure it. So, we cannot judge a book just by happening to walk on a chapter. People do consider the out spoken people to be narrow minded at times.
Being broad minded is believing in harmony, accepting the thoughts of other people by understanding their frame of mind and patiently putting our own thoughts. People with a positive mindset always accept their mistakes and appreciate new positive thoughts. In case of low minded people, their opinion is unalterable. Every time somebody disagrees with them, there ego kicks in. So we can say that an egoistic person is also narrow minded.
A broad minded person is always the leader while narrow minded a boss. Now the ball is in your court. You want the people to look up to you, follow you, respect you and listen to you out of respect, or be sweet in front of you, back bite you, do listen to your orders, but out of fear.
Now make the right choice!
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A very good morning from India to all the people around the globe.Today I will be talking something about the day that most of us eagerly wait for. SUNDAY!
It is a day that is taken as rest day by almost everyone of us. A day which officially asks us to be lazy as we can, to do no sort of work and just enjoy to our fullest. A day just to have fun and do all the things that relax our mind.
There are some people who will just stay in their bed and do nothing, and some who will not be staying even in their homes all day long and stroll in the streets. Some who will just prefer a soothing music and a cup of coffee, while others a really exotic cuisine. All of us are aiming for the same goal i.e. to relieve the stress which has been accumulated during the working days of that week and to have some “FUN!”, but we all look for different ways to achieve relaxation. Than, there are some people who utilize or I think that waste will be a better term for it, their precious time by involving in activities like a term which is used in our North India “gedi” referring to the so called boys getting a full of a girl by checking her out, molesting and eve teasing her, doing drugs etc. These people are fully aware that these activities are hazardous to their state of mind and body, and unworthy of their time. Not withstanding these negative aspects of inculcating such habits, these people risk themselves and put the healthy environment of a society at stake for these short term desires that might have devastating consequences. This question arises in my mind that why are these people choosing these ways of having so called fun when so many options of entertainment are available to us?
This is because people are unaware about the ill-effects of such activities but the more disturbing part is that even the aware and educated people especially the male youth of today’s “modern” society engages in such activities. Why is this so? This is because they possess a lot of energy in them which they consume by doing such stuff. To all those out there who find fun in doing such stuff, who are always high on their energy, this is a kind request from me that all of you please divert your energy towards a positive cause. You can go to the gymnasium, do some sports and do some real workout instead of trying to prove your masculinity by molesting the female sex. Please utilize your energy and do something that would benefit you and the society as well. Leave the society, just do it for yourself. Sit and think whatever you are doing right now stating as “S(F)UNDAY” how much is it benefiting you?
Ignoring the people who are just resting and having time with their families, you guys are doing the best thing ever. In the end it is the family only that matters. And giving your time to your family there can be nothing much more valuable than it. There is no one, who deserves your time more than your family. GOOD GOING!
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DUSK IS NOT THE END OF THE DAY!
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“As you sow so shall you reap.”
Everyone among us must be familiar with this great saying from the Bible. Generally speaking, man is responsible for the consequences of his own actions, but man blames the luck for all the wrong doings in the life but forgets, Fortune favors only the brave.
The first step that can take you towards greatness is – Accepting that you are the whole sole owner of your own actions. Once a very wise man said, “Nothing can go wrong till the time you don’t make it wrong.” There are no mistakes in life just lessons to be learnt. Let the bygones be bygones. As I mentioned before in LESSONS! what life teaches us.
Now, a farmer sows corn, he cannot expect to reap rice! In the same way, you cannot expect to stand first in the races if you haven’t run at all during the year. Take this example in any context or aspect you want, the result will be the same.
No efforts in the right direction ever go waste. Sooner or later you will get your reward. So, work hard, take responsibilities of your actions, own up to your failures and perform your duty as best as you can–only then will you reap the benefits of your perseverance in the form of success and happiness.
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Good evening(A very late one, from India.) Good morning. Good Afternoon and also Good night to all the people in every corner of the world out there, who are reading this.
The one thing, process, a habit or rather say a word that we all are familiar with is the word PROCRASTINATION.
Procrastination is the avoidance of a task that needs to be accomplished. Rather than avoidance I will use the word ‘delaying’ that too, intentionally. Almost everyone of us out here and there, has at some point in his/her life has said to himself/herself, “It is no big deal. I will for sure finish this task tomorrow.” or “I know this is very easy. I will do it the very next moment. It will hardly take 20-30 minutes for me to complete it.” Ladies and Gentlemen this habit of yours’, rather ours’ is known as Procrastination in the grammatical world.
I will give you all a very recent example. When i say “very recent” it means like an example or a process which was undergoing a few minutes before i started writing this post out here. And that too this delaying activity of mine was continuing from the past 2 days. Each hour, I used to think of writing the blog but was busy so, as a normal person I also told myself that, “It is no big deal. I will take my laptop and do it the very next hour I get free.” And the result is here. The very next hour is here. At last, I did it.
I constantly kept on thinking about this topic, this habit, of most of us and the question which I came up with was, Why do we procrastinate?
The answer is quite simple and logical as well. We do so, because this is the natural human tendency that, we do something much better when we have pressure on us. The last moment thing, that last minute habit. That last minute pressure of completing a task forces us to focus much well. It gives an energy boost to complete the task in the remaining period of time. We did our job. We are happy. “ALL’S WELL, THAT ENDS WELL!” 👍😊
Now again rewind everything my friends. You got the task. You started delaying it. You keep on postponing. The last moment arrives and you are having all the energy boost, pressure, focus and everything that you require at that moment. But you do not have time to complete it. Let us ignore the time aspect and, for a second let us say that you completed the work. Excellent! But don’t you see the total amount of risks you have taken in the “I will do it later.” process.
What if one of the thing you are doing goes wrong?, because you are under pressure my friend. Have you ever thought of it? No! Because if we had done it, there would not have been any such “I will do it later.” process. There would not have been any delays in submitting reports, assignments, projects, homework, forms and papers. Everything would have been completed on time.
Somewhere or the other we all are responsible for a lot of mess around us. The dirty streets, the undone works, the projects waiting for a touch of our hands, the assignments out there hoping that someday they will be completed before the due date.
In the end when we are unable to do a specific work on time, we simply blame it on others, we find a reason, an excuse that would for the time being “procrastinate” the blame from us and save us.
This is all because, we just focus on the present and never think, What would be the consequences of our habit in the coming future?
If we start thinking about it once, I promise no one of us is going to promise any sort of work to be done in future. Everything will be done there and then at the very moment we get the task. There will be no delays, no lags, no complaints in this world. We all will not be having any uncompleted works or tasks.
There are so many people around me in my college, who keep on delaying the tasks, assignments, projects. This type of thinking can help us in the present, but is not going to benefit us at all in the upcoming future. This habit is going to deteriorate us.
We all should look beyond this thinking and stay really energized and do our work before the due date. I promise you all that, you all will be feeling the change like I am feeling right now, while writing this blog. Now I do not feel like stopping, and keep on expressing everything I am feeling right now. And friends, it feels really good doing so. Not delaying tasks, and doing them before the prior time. It gives a positive feeling. A feeling of satisfaction.
Try it once. I promise no one of you will be unsatisfied. What you need to do is, just hold your fist, take a deep breathe and move forward to complete your task. You will see that you do not require or need that “last minute pressure” and that we all are capable of doing our jobs on time. Before the due date! Remember, “A Stitch In Time, Saves Nine.”
Complete your work on time!
“The Sooner, The Better!”
P.S.- I was not averting the blog, just that I am a bit busy studying for my examinations. Really sorry for a late post. Thankyou for taking out time and reading the post. Please follow via email or subscribe so that you do not miss my next post. ☺